2020 is our fourth year of Re|Engage. We will continue offering it every Spring semester, when there are 16 weeks available to complete the full semester. This year, for the first time, Re|Engage will be offered for Spanish speaking couples.
Every Spring begins with January “test drive” weeks, giving couples an opportunity to carefully consider the program expectations before committing to the semester. We will only place ready, committed couples into “Closed Groups” with a mentor — it’s only fair to the other couples who are ready to make the commitment. So these test-drive weeks are critical for preparing and determining who is ready to be placed into a Re|Engage Closed Group. Re|Engage will take couples in Closed Groups through 16 weeks of marriage development and mentoring, ending in mid-May.
Here’s how a typical night of Re|Engage looks: In Room 231, doors open each Wednesday at 6 pm. Couples enjoy a time of fellowship and refreshments after a long day at work. At 6:15 Re|Engage begins with a time of large-group encouragement followed by a weekly small-group experience with a handful of other couples. Re|Engage ends by 8 pm every week.
For couples unable to participate in Re|Engage: In 2020, in addition to Re|Engage, we will be addressing the need for marriage building in two different ways. We will be offering marriage development in a weekend event format for 10 couples this Fall. We will also be launching a new on-demand service early in 2020 for any couple to work on their marriage in the time and place the works best.
I don’t know what season of marriage you are in. Every marriage is different. Christy and I are in our third decade as a married couple. Things have changed along the way. We have had challenges—big and small. Through trial and error (lots of error), and a white-knuckle grip on our hope in God’s power to change us, we have seen God renovate our marriage into something we’re happy with and thankful for.
But if we could rewind the clocks, and get a re-do, we would jump at an opportunity like Re|Engage. It would have helped us get on the same page in the early years of our marriage, walked us through painful and difficult challenges, and given us tools to navigate new seasons in our family life. Most importantly, it would have anchored us to the Author of real hope and change—not in fuzzy, obscure terms—but with real, tangible help. God made us to need Him, His Word, and His people. Each of those is important and essential.
So don’t be embarrassed that you want to re-ignite the spark in your marriage, re-connect with your spouse, or resurrect a marriage that feels dead. Marriage never drifts in the right direction—everyone needs to intentionally invest in and protect their marriage. God made you to need the help and encouragement of others. Christy and I still need it to keep moving forward. Re|Engage is a safe place to explore with God’s people the hope for every marriage Christ Himself offers.
David Booth | Families Pastor